Remember the feeling of excitement you would get to go home, jump on your computer, and start mindlessly adding pictures to your “Dream Wedding” board? This was before you got the ring…now you have been engaged for months, almost there, and there’s more feelings of dread for this joyous day rather than joy. What happened? About two weeks before our wedding, I told my husband, “We should’ve eloped.” He looked at me perplexed, then with a laugh and a sigh communicated, “That would’ve been easier.” How did we get here? How did I get here? I had been planning my nuptials for years and could not have been more excited to be marrying the man of my dreams. I think more couples fall into this trap than expected; the FUN gets sucked out of the planning! It starts fun, but then add in making decisions, your opinions, your mother-in-laws opinions, your great uncle’s allergy issues, your best friend can’t make it, your bridesmaids hate the colors you’ve chosen, and the list goes on and on. When I look back, the whole process is a blur but I can remember the moments that made all of the difference and kept me from wanting to run away from it all.
Make Time to Dream– You will be entering into a whole new life as a married couple with so many new adventures ahead. Go to the beach, mountains, or a park and just think about what you want your life to be like as a committed team. Over time dreams grow and change, but this is such a special opportunity to really think about what is possible! Maybe even make your own dream board together to look back on over the years.
Go on Dates– Go out! Make a plan: dinner and a movie, mini golf, game night. This is one of the best de-stressors! Hopefully, you will be going on dates for the rest of your life so keep up this habit! The one condition is YOU CANNOT TALK ABOUT THE WEDDING. There are plenty of opportunities to make wedding decisions or express worry and concern, but a date is not one of them. Focus on enjoying each others company.
Stop Trying to Please Everyone– This is a hard one. We obviously want to consider everyone, especially if they are family or close friends, however, the opinions of others cannot dictate your every decision or emotion. This will drive you crazy! Whenever there is a new life stage, (i.e. marriage, baby, house) out of the goodness of their hearts, people will freely tell you exactly how to do everything and what you should do. AKA what they did. I will admit that I am guilty of this but from former bride to bride: just remind yourself that this is about you and your fiancé.
Spend Time with your Family– Especially the week of the wedding, you will need this time to decompress and relax. Whether it’s your parents, siblings, aunt, uncle, or grandma, choose to be around the people that give you a sense of “home.” (even if it’s just for breakfast)
Dance at Your Wedding– It’s time to celebrate!! Let go of the past months, little details, and enjoy the biggest party that will ever be thrown in your honor! Even if you are “not a dancer,” the whole idea is to have a smile on your face and relish is this new beginning.
The stresses of planning a wedding can be straining on your relationships, health, and even future marriage. All of which can take the fun out of a time that could potentially be one of the best memories of your life. We hope these little tips help you take a step back and bring the joy into the planning process! Good luck and happy planning!
Your VIP Team